NOT A STRANGER. There is no such thing as love at first sight. There may be infatuation at
first sight, but not true love--the Bible kind--for it takes time to develop. Some have been
deceived by the charming remarks of a stranger and have ruined their lives by a hasty marriage.
The skilled banker would not trust his judgment to grant a loan based on first appearance; neither
should you enter the contract for life with one with whom you are not thoroughly acquainted.
ONE FREE TO MARRY. If a person was divorced because he or she committed fornication, he
or she is not free to marry (Matt. 5:32). If one was divorced for some reason other than
fornication, he is not free to marry (Matt. 19:9). One should never become emotionally involved
with someone who has no right to marry. For a successful and happy marriage the laws of God
must be understood, respected, and obeyed.
NOT A WICKED PERSON. Examples are without number of those who were lead to
destruction because of wicked companions (1 Kings 11:4; 16:31; 21:25; 2 Chron. 21:5-6). To
find someone worthy starts with my being worthy myself. Boaz said of Ruth, "...All the people of
my town know that you are a virtuous woman." (Ruth 3:11). It is this kind of person who wins
the worthy companion; the sinful win the other kind. The young who think the "smart" thing to
do is to curse, lie, and commit fornication, are destroying their hopes for a happy home. They will
reap what they sow (Gal. 6:7-8).
NOT ONE WHO DRINKS ALCOHOL. Those with the drink habit should be avoided. If he
continues to drink in spite of what others, his parents, the law of Christ, and you have taught him,
his promises are worthless. Use good judgment and spare yourself from much sorrow and
heartache by avoiding the would-be alcoholic. Remember, the best companions do not come
from the taverns, beer-joints, and dance halls.
SOMEONE RESPONSIBLE. There are fearful responsibilities that come with marriage. The
young man must be willing to leave his parents and shoulder the task of providing for his own (1
Tim. 5:8). The young lady must be willing to cook, mend the clothes, care for the house, bear
and rear up children (1 Tim. 5:14; Titus 2:4-5). The task of home-making is for adults; those who
lack maturity are not ready for marriage. Start by being responsible yourself.
A CHRISTIAN. The law of Christ does not command the young to marry only a Christian; nevertheless, it is extremely wise to do so. There are many problems the Christian faces in the home which is divided as to religion. Many non-Christians become belligerent about their mates attending every service, giving as prospered, etc. When children come along, problems and disagreements are only multiplied. Thus, avoid these difficulties and marry someone who will encourage you in the way of salvation.